Minding Your Human Business: The LOVE Frequency

It is not any one person’s responsibility to assure that another individual behaves “humanely.” Self-accountability, i.e., “minding one’s own human business” means a few things. It means FIRST looking DIRECTLY in the mirror. Figuratively and literally, this means to wholly look at YOURSELF!

As we grow, humans become somehow impressed to control the human path of other humans. In our turning away from the man or woman in the mirror, we focus instead on how we can control our children, spouses, family members, friends, coworkers, the café barista, the supermarket clerk, etc.

It is the insatiable desire to control others. This desire is destructive.

Social media has opened a theatrical platform for us to look more outward than inward. Humans are a very critical, judgmental, manipulative, prejudiced, and biased species. I know because I am one of you. It seems that this is a human behavior that has always been and always will be.

So, what are we to do?

I firmly believe that we should first look in the mirror beyond vanity. We must examine how we are minding our best human business.  Are we being the best humans to ourselves and others? Are we willing to relinquish self-serving control for communication, compassion, understanding and love?

There are some absolute and undisputed facts about this human walk, regardless of physical, mental, or spiritual fitness. First, all who are here have been born, and will most assuredly die. The other is that physical, mental, and spiritual fitness is essential to our living. The maintenance of these essentials must be lead with LOVE.

Sadly, most don’t share in this philosophy. Human suffering is most often caused by the manipulation and oppressive behaviors of other humans. This inhumanity has caused more people to retreat from LOVE, rather than embrace it. Cruelty has become a biproduct of this human evolution. Often what appears to be LOVE is either a weak carbon copy of it, or the manipulation of good feelings induced by that yummy oxytocin hormone. This “False LOVE” hurts and never heals. It breaks trust and injures self-esteem. It causes a river of tears and induces hate in the heart. It breaks hearts and homes. It paints false colors in a world intended to flourish in vibrance.

So, broken hearts reach out to religion, online gurus, false relationships, and friendships searching for a comfort to the injury of false love. While there are many who have loving hearts and the desire to heal, there are many more who seek to use religion, therapies, and close relationships to inflict pain. After all, as the saying goes, “hurt people hurt people.”

Personally, I once considered myself a victim of such human beings. I suffered pain that nearly convinced me at times that my space on this planet and in this universe was merely to bring my sons into the world. I reached such a low place and partnership with pain. I resolved that my life could end once my youngest son reached adulthood. What a terrible feeling.

Many people have responded in shock when I have shared parts of my story with them. Interestingly, they never asked me why I felt that way. It’s not important to share here why I felt that way then, but more important to express how I survived. The first step involved doing the self-work of looking at the woman in the mirror. The next step involved seeing the higher power within me. That higher power that rescued me was LOVE.

I have no idea how the impersonation of love broke me. Yet, it was genuine LOVE that rescued me. I believe that genuine love is God.

I don’t speak of “God” as attached to any religion or spiritual path. This one omnipotent energy belongs to us all. You may call this energy Jesus, Allah, Buddha, Oshun, etc. This energy is genuine goodness that lives inside the human soul. That supreme energy that makes us feel good and gives us peace absent of fear and manipulation. It is the frequency that vibrates within the human spirit capable of the highest goodness. The feeling that restores and heals what is broken. The feeling that breaks through with joy, no matter how much it is resisted, no matter how it is denied, declined, or manipulated. It is our personal business to commune with this energy for self-sustenance. Minding your human business means tapping into that energy to achieve the sweetest humanity.

You see, I somehow returned to the belief in this goodness. No. I am not the best human I can be. I can say for sure that each day I try my best to be. So, while I daily attempt the ritual of minding my own human business, resisting the desire to control, judge and criticize, I make it a daily practice to get closer to the GOD or highest power within me. I want to be sure that no one in my forward steps feels like they had to survive my existence. I’m taking self-responsibility of being the best human possible.

So, since this highest power that heals and restores the human is LOVE, I believe as our worthy ancestor, Bob Marley quoted;

“LOVE is my religion!”

There is a bravery in this statement. It is not corny. It is not “simping.” It is not weakness. It is not only healing for us as the most magnificent creatures on this earth, but it is essential to our restoration and survival. Otherwise, I feel this beautiful Earth may just purge us and replace us with a species that is LOVE MAGNIFICENT and not self-destructive.

My suggestion is that while this life seems to involve a never-ending evolution of inhumanity, the healing answer is gravitating to the one thing that brought our magnificence into being in the first place.

Let’s try these things:

·         Tap into the “God Energy”

·         Love yourself.

·         Examine your humanity.

·         Dedicate yourself to sharing the best of you.

·         Teach love to others.

·         Gravitate to others who vibe within the “Love Frequency”

·         Resist hate (although its existence is undeniable)

·         Be dedicated to being a human being who heals and resists the desire to hurt.

It certainly won’t be simple, but in practice we can restore so much good that has been lost in the world.  I believe that this is an integral part of Minding One’s Own Human Business.